Towards Excellence

“Activists will come and go, voices will be raised and shut, Governments will seek popularity and others will oppose… But there is something that will remain and is unmovable – nature.”

Some time ago, I was commuting in a taxi to my office, and in the midst of a heavy traffic and my mind swirling with so many thoughts at the same time, I was suddenly caught by an image that I will never forget.

In the distance, one could see the sweetness of two teenage girls, who probably left their school at that time and were waiting for public transportation to drive them back home. All flirtatious, dressed in their school uniform, carrying their heavy backpacks, they seemed to engage in a dialogue that only they were able to understand in depth.

Glances went back and forth between the two of them and anyone who saw them could tell that they were two girls who had built a great friendship; a close, deep and unconditional relationship.

In the midst of the crowd and heavy traffic, my taxi suddenly stopped forthwith in front of the red traffic light, and concurrently, my gaze also stopped in amazement at the warning of the next action taken by these girls.

I could hardly believe it, my heart was pounding and at the same time, it was saddened. Those who stared at them surely thought that they were “accomplices”, schoolmates who had each other’s back all the time, accomplices when they did not complete the tasks, accomplices when perhaps one of them was missing, accomplices maybe when they copied each other’s exams. Yes, accomplices! Because in the couple of minutes that the traffic and the red light stopped me slightly in front of them, those thoughts brought about the image of these two girls, the image of the girly things that these schoolgirls would surely do in school.

Actually, my heart became sad when I suddenly looked at one of them who, with such boldness, approached even more the other girl and with a “womanizer” attitude began to caress and kiss her. And of course, the other one kissed her back “positively” without objection, pain, or complication.

A close friendship? A sincere and unconditional fellowship? A temporary relationship of infatuation between young girls? Or rather a tremendous alert for parents, families, communities!
Perhaps, while many read this story, they might say that “we must be tolerant and respect other people’s thinking and lifestyle,” or that “we must have an open mind, that we are in a different point in time.” The most disturbing thing is that even parents might think it so too.

But if we are honest to ourselves and analyze this kind of situations from the bottom of our hearts; isn’t it bizarre, uncomfortable and even disgusting to watch this kind of scenes – two little girls as if they were “in love”, or two boys pretending to be in a “couple’s” relationship?

And beyond that, as in my case, it was certainly painful. I felt a deep sadness for those girls. From the bottom of my heart I felt that there is a deep confusion in their lives. A confusion that probably stem from shortcomings in their lives. Yes, lack of love and care by their parents, lack of an appropriate family environment that affirms to each one of them that they are princesses, beautiful girls with a bright future ahead of them in which they will emerge as beautiful and intelligent women, full of attributes and virtues; as great professionals; but, mostly, as wonderful wives and mothers, whose children will be breastfed, nourished, protected, educated and guided as only a selfless mother usually does.

Yes! Shortages and probably losses! A few years ago I had the opportunity to do a research, with academic purposes, on the main causes of homosexuality and it was at the same time, surprising and sad to understand why finally many children, adolescents and young people end up confused, deviant and spoiled. Among the reasons are:

1. Damaged family ties: absence of the father or the mother, rejection of the identity of the newborn.
2. Lack of gender identity: inadequate relationship with the parent having the same sex.
3. Confusion of roles: False protection of the child or girl, or what is known as maternal overprotection.
4. Sexual, psychological, physical, emotional, verbal abuse.

Therefore, there is no such thing as, “I am trapped in a body that is not mine.” Activists will come and go, voices will be raised and shut, Governments will seek popularity and others will oppose to these groups as the well-known LGTBI. But there is something that will remain and is unmovable – nature. Nature itself teaches us that animals were created male and female. An so was the human being! We were created men and women. Otherwise, we would not have reached as far to this point in history, if it was not for the natural reproduction between men and women. The family is made up of a man, the head of every household; and of a woman, his help mate; who reproduce and have sons and daughters who will extend their territory and will be honored by the communities they live in.

God, Creator of heavens and earth, of the whole universe, is the one who wisely created men and women. There is no other way to reproduce ourselves, so that together we broaden our lands and rule the earth. We need the strength of the warrior man and hero, his impetus to explore and investigate, his protective heart and desire to provide for his family. And undoubtedly, the beauty and tenderness of the woman, whose heart is reliable, her spirit selfless, and her love inexhaustible for those around her, and certainly, her immortal hope.

In God’s wisdom, “He created mankind in his own image, in the image of God He created them; male and female He created them.” (Genesis 1:27) The Lord’s original purpose was to create us with a heart that reflects His own attributes; however, due to sin, this heart has been broken and many human beings who have not reconciled with God, Their Creator, are far from reflecting those attributes.

Sadly and only as an example, the LGTBI population in the United States reached 4.5% (Gallup, 2017). And in the United Kingdom, the number of lesbians, gays and bisexuals reached just over 1,000,000 (ONS, 2017), and so we could address so many more examples, but this is not today’s purpose.
Instead, it is an invitation to you to take some time and think deeply in your hearts about so many lives destroyed and faded, notwithstanding they pretend the opposite: strength, lots of energy, with a spirit of tireless struggle for “their rights” and that they withstand, at all costs, to be “rejected.”

And in fact, the key word is “rejection.” Perhaps, deep inside their hearts lie deep wounds of rejection, abuse, contempt that need to be healed.

My invitation, if we are close to boys or girls, like those girls in my story in whom we clearly notice a confused spirit, is to extend our helping hand to lift them up, let us be that light that shines in the midst of their darkness and above all, let us give them that embrace they need so much so that they feel they are accepted, that even though their closest relatives have rejected them, God, their Creator is ready to embrace them and begin to heal their wounds no matter how complex and incurable they may seem.

“This is what the Lord says: Your wound is incurable, your injury beyond healing…But I will restore you to health, and heal your wounds, declares the Lord”. (Jeremiah 30:12,17a)

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